I just can’t help myself. Sometimes I am a merciless teaser!! My Mom, affectionately known as “The Momma,” asked where the pancreas is…the wise guy answer that came out of my mouth was “Inside the body…?” I proceeded to laugh my butt off I thought I was so funny.
But in reality, it is no laughing matter. I found out this week that my Dad has to have surgery to remove precancerous cells in his pancreas. He IS 85. He is NOT in the best of health. He IS back in my life after a decent sabbatical. He is NOT my best friend. He IS my dad.
We have had a difficult relationship for as long as I can remember. But part of my healing, a boulder sized part, was learning to forgive. And he probably won the prize for most mentioned in the category, with possibly a slight edge going to ME. It is close.
He called me, I presume to tell me about his surgery. I thought that notification should have come from my sister who promised, again for the 27th time, she would keep me informed. But the call came from him. It shouldn’t seem so strange. But he hasn’t called me in….well…like…never.
I know that I am a work in progress. I also know that everyday we face challenges that are learning opportunities. I made a conscious decision to reconnect with him, to have a relationship on whatever level was possible. And so far I have not been disappointed. It appears that maybe he is not either…he called ME!
Oh…and just to let you know I had another opportunity to tease The Momma. She constantly complains that the food they serve where she lives is “frozen” and therefore, it is terrible. We have had many a debate over this. We brought “frozen” chicken breasts stuffed with brie cheese and apples (super delicious!!!) to her house for dinner tonight.
They really were yummy and she exclaimed at how much she loved them. My plan was to tell her they were frozen and to snicker when she didn’t believe it. But, I just couldn’t do it. She liked it so much I wanted her to be able to have them again. So when she asked, “You made them?” I knew it was okay to say yes…it wasn’t a lie…I put them on the cookie sheet and put them in the oven!
Blessitude
I LOVE the way you write!
I read each post to the END.
Just wanted to tell you that I am never disappointed to take the time to do that♡
I can’t tell you how that touched my heart…Thank you for the kind words and the support 🙂 I feel your energy and it is good!! Blessitude
I am glad your Dad called you and that you took the call. This is the first post I’m reading so I’m not sure what’s gone on with you and your Dad. But I’m happy to see that there’s communication and you mentioned, forgiveness. I am grateful that you’ve got that now.
It means a lot to have your encouragement. ..Thank you! I do forgive and I must tell you what a huge step that is in healing. I didn’t understand what forgiveness is…I thought it excused whatever behavior caused the problem. When you finally “get” it …it is a miraculously transformative tool! And my Dad and I are a work in progress!! Blessitude
I am grateful that you are able to forgive your Dad while he is alive for I believe it is easier. Mine passed suddenly and it was harder to do it that way. Not that it is easy mind you. But for your sakes, I am glad you are finding peace now. ♥
I read a book called The Soul and the Sun and it gave me such peace. It’s by Neale Donald Walsch. I wrote about it in my blog. ♥
Thank you so much for the gift of this suggestion. ..I will check this out…I always believe the things we need come to us! Have a super day!
I feel the same way ~ have a lovely week! ♥ It’s a children’s book, but the meaning is what changed me.
Even better! I know a little girl who probably needs this in her life right now. It is all divine 🙂
*Big smile* ♥♥♥
Thank you…I was very aware that it would be better to do it while he was alive…and it isn’t easy, but it is simple….love is the key to everything. And I am so grateful that he was able to feel the love and forgiveness.
I am so sorry you were not able to have the same. I wish you many blessings!
So glad you’ve reconnected with your dad. Hope you enjoy some good, precious years with him.
Xxxx
Diana
Thank you Diana…you just reminded me to call him! He is having surgery on Monday….I can’t be there in person but my spirit will be watching over him. Blessitude – Lorrie
Hope it goes smoothly. He’ll take such comfort hearing from you.
🙂
Many thanks…walk in love this weekend.
Another lovely post. Such delightful writing! And I always appreciate when others share the joys and tribulations of learning as we travel through life. Yes HE called… AND you took his call. Yay on both points. But a favorite part is you telling The Momma about her delicious dinner from you was yes, made by you! Of course, who else put it in the oven? Good for you! A win-win on all counts. Hugs, Gina
Hi Gina, I love a win-win! Thanks for visiting! I had to laugh again about the “frozen” dinner 🙂
An update on my Dad…his surgery went well and I may actually have a chance to see him this weekend! Hugs back to you! Lorrie