If whatever I give out comes back to me,
why would I give anything but a blessing?
It’s so easy to want to strike out against someone you feel has done you wrong. And that is the cycle that is so hard to break. Someone mistreats you, and your immediate reaction is to send that energy back – and then some!
What if you decide to CHANGE THE ENERGY? What if instead of retaliating with like energy and keeping a situation negative, you simply ignored the way it made you feel and changed the energy?
I am no expert, that’s for sure. Just this weekend I had a run in with a woman in a retail establishment. She sold an item I had asked them to hold for me while I shopped, to someone else. Her attitude was “tough luck,” and then she lied to add insult to injury. She dismissed me as she sarcastically said, “Have a nice day,” and walked away.
I won’t say what I wanted to do – but you can imagine! Instead, I responded with, “No, YOU HAVE A NICE DAY,” in a tone that was 100% incongruent with the words.
My girlfriends and I were so upset and the energy that surrounded us felt so icky. I knew it had the potential to ruin the rest of the day, and that would have been a shame.
In Gary Zukav’s book, Soul Stories, there is a chapter that starts with the following excerpt about a talk with a Hawaiin shaman:
“The most important thing of all is to bless everyone all the time. Think about what you can bless every time you meet someone. It may be his smile, or gentleness, or intelligence. She may be a mother, or a nurse, or someone who makes people feel good about themselves.”
Looking back, I find it difficult to come up with any blessing about this rude woman.
The shaman had an answer for times like this.
“Just in case, I am going to give you an emergency blessing. You can use it if you can’t find one thing about someone to bless. Tell yourself, ” ‘His exhalation feeds the plants.’ “
Ha ha ha! I’m not going to lie – my first thought was HER exhalation is probably poisonous!
But I am going to put this little gem into my back pocket to keep for those times when I really want to feel and say something else.
Maybe if we can get into the habit of looking for the blessings in people, no matter what they show on the outside, it will help to change their energy and the way they feel about themselves.
I know it’s not easy to show kindness when you feel someone has disrespected you, but I do know it will change HOW YOU FEEL. And I think every person in the world would rather feel good, than bad. It is up to us! We have the power to diffuse a situation and decide how to feel. Don’t give your power away by retaliating in the same energy.
CHANGE YOUR RESPONSE
AND YOU CHANGE THE SITUATION
Hope all is well in your world and that the summer is filled with lots of wonderful adventures!
Blessitude!
Lorrie <3
07/14/2024
“CHANGE YOUR RESPONSE
AND YOU CHANGE THE SITUATION “- great words to live by-😀
Hi Liz 🙂 Thanks…sure hope all is well in your world!
Haha, thanks Lorrie. I read that ’emergency blessing’ and laughed like crazy. It is truly amazing and indeed a blessing, it caught me out so much that I’m still smiling as I write this. Thank you for a delightful start to my Monday morning. I’m about to call the plumber so I may need it before the day is out. Thank you and many blessings for your day too 🤣❤️🙏
Oh, no, Mark…not the plumber!!
Hope all went well with that “situation.”
And yes, I laughed so loud too. It is a perfect blessing when you just can’t find any other one!
Here’s to all good things for your new week. <3
Oh Lorrie, I just left you the longest comment, and will not do it justice by trying to repeat it.. As it did a vanishing act.. this is happening more and more on WP..
I will just say that I loved your quote and Changing our responses do change the reactions.. <3 Much love your way xx <3
Oh, Sue…I know how that feels! Sorry that happened to you. I get so discouraged when it happens to me…it always happens on a long message!!
Sure hope all is well in your world. And yes…we are so powerful and most times don’t even recognize it!
All good things…and lots of love and light <3
All I will add without my ling story Lorrie is that to those who irritate us with rudeness or indifference , whose energy is out of line with our own. Try surrounding them in the colour Pink.. sending huge waves of love in their direction..It works.. Especially if you are dealing with such a person daily. Watch their energy begin to change towards you. It’s amazing when you realise your helping shift their energy frequency with what you are sending out .. Think PINK.. 😘💕💕💕💕😃😍
Oh my goodness, Sue! I love this idea!! Surrounding them in pink….I never heard of this before and I will absolutely keep this little gem in my toolbox! Sending love along with the color…hmmmm….I almost can’t wait to try it (but that would mean I was willingly inviting irritation!! so I won’t! I will wait until (and if) it happens naturally 😉
Hope all is well in your world, Sue. Thanks for adding this…I know it will be helpful not only to me but to anyone who reads it <3
Have a super wonderful day and rest of the week!
I’m sure it will come in useful xx lol 😆 😘 😉
I’ve thought about it many times since you wrote it…but have not had the chance to try it…which I guess is good 😉
It is, meaning you are connecting with like-minded people, ✨️ ☺️ . All good. Xx ❤️
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Love that Emergency Blessing, so good lol. 😁 And I love your attitude Lorrie. Imagine if we all did this, how it would change the energy of the entire world. To uplift instead of put down. You’re right, it’s not always easy but far out, it’s worth trying isn’t it!! Wonderful post my friend! Love and blessings to you always. ❤️🙏
Hi Miriam 🙂 It is so worth trying!! But something tells me that we are not the first people to think this is a good idea, or to think that we could really change the world! Wouldn’t it be great if the majority of people would catch on to this and then we could watch as the momentum would catch hold!!
And the “emergency” blessing is a good one! Just proof that no matter how hard it might be, we can always find a blessing!
Sending lots of love and light to you, Miriam <3
So timely! Perfect!
Hi Michael 🙂 I am hoping that doesn’t mean you have to deal with rude people! I just responded to Sue, who wrote that the best way to deal with these people is to, of course, send love energy, but to also surround them in the color pink! I was happy to read that and will try it in the future.
Hope you are well, and that life is full of wonderful things!
This is all so relatable! I love your sense of humor throughout though :).
Awww…thanks Kristen 🙂 It feels so much better to laugh – doesn’t it? The woman was so rude and my initial reaction was in kind. But I can look back and laugh now (writing always helps) and it turns out I didn’t need that item as much as I thought I did…so I can actually thank her! 😉
Hope things are well in your world! <3
I love this post, Lorrie. Every challenging situation becomes an opportunity! Thoughtful and positive responses lead the way!!
Sure does, Judy…If we can have the patience and desire to look for it! Thanks for stopping by. Hope all is super in your world!! <3
That would be a tough one, but you were so right! We really do have the power to change our feelings and control our reactions, and when we do: everyone is so much better off!!
Right, Ann? I know I have been involved in disagreements when the right thing is to back down and create peace, and there’s still this pushing back feeling that makes it so hard!! Sometimes we are our own worst enemies, I think. Would sure like to stop being that, though!
Hope all is well in your world, Ann <3
Such an important thought you share here, Lorrie: “If whatever I give out comes back to me,
why would I give anything but a blessing?” A positive attitude does make life and the world revolve a bit more relaxing and rewarding when we understand we’re all in this together.
Hi Randall 🙂 It’s beautiful in its simplicity, isn’t it? If one person at a time could get on board with the idea…ah! Now we’re talking about heaven on earth!!
Hope all is well with you <3
I’m back to WordPress… and to your beautiful blog. Much wisdom and light there as always – and helpful thoughts like “change your response, and you change the situation”, how true!!! It will be soon a very important Lion day 🙂 and I will tell you more… much love to you 🌺☀️💚♥️🧡❤️💙
My Dearest!! I know this is you <3 I couldn't be happier than to see that you have returned to WP...the world needs to see the beautiful words you write from your soul!! I have to say that I have missed you here...immensely!
I hope that all is well, and that life is treating you with lots of love and lots of light and wonder <3 <3