It took me a long time to figure out that I attract people who are not good for me. It took me longer to realize that it is okay to wish them well and move on. I believed that we are all connected and it somehow reflected poorly on me if I didn’t stay embroiled in the drama and emotional blackmail. How could I turn my back on someone who needs me?
But then I realized we are all energy. I must be vibrating at a level that allows those people to be attracted to me. If I could change my energy those people might still come shopping, but when they saw the “Closed for Business” sign – they might knock for a little while – but eventually they turn around and look for another person to do their business with.
It is all a matter of self care. I learned to love myself and respect myself enough to number one: recognize the emotional vampires, and number two: send them love and well wishes – but ultimately, send them on their way.
The real blessing here is that some of those people have stayed in my life. When they realized I wasn’t open for business, they changed the way they do business!! What a blessing to be an impetus for change simply by changing myself.
I can’t say that I have a perfect record. But I can tell you that my radar looks a lot like air traffic control, and I have averted some near disasters!
How do you conduct your business?