I just can’t help myself. Sometimes I am a merciless teaser!! My Mom, affectionately known as “The Momma,” asked where the pancreas is…the wise guy answer that came out of my mouth was “Inside the body…?” I proceeded to laugh my butt off I thought I was so funny.
But in reality, it is no laughing matter. I found out this week that my Dad has to have surgery to remove precancerous cells in his pancreas. He IS 85. He is NOT in the best of health. He IS back in my life after a decent sabbatical. He is NOT my best friend. He IS my dad.
We have had a difficult relationship for as long as I can remember. But part of my healing, a boulder sized part, was learning to forgive. And he probably won the prize for most mentioned in the category, with possibly a slight edge going to ME. It is close.
He called me, I presume to tell me about his surgery. I thought that notification should have come from my sister who promised, again for the 27th time, she would keep me informed. But the call came from him. It shouldn’t seem so strange. But he hasn’t called me in….well…like…never.
I know that I am a work in progress. I also know that everyday we face challenges that are learning opportunities. I made a conscious decision to reconnect with him, to have a relationship on whatever level was possible. And so far I have not been disappointed. It appears that maybe he is not either…he called ME!
Oh…and just to let you know I had another opportunity to tease The Momma. She constantly complains that the food they serve where she lives is “frozen” and therefore, it is terrible. We have had many a debate over this. We brought “frozen” chicken breasts stuffed with brie cheese and apples (super delicious!!!) to her house for dinner tonight.
They really were yummy and she exclaimed at how much she loved them. My plan was to tell her they were frozen and to snicker when she didn’t believe it. But, I just couldn’t do it. She liked it so much I wanted her to be able to have them again. So when she asked, “You made them?” I knew it was okay to say yes…it wasn’t a lie…I put them on the cookie sheet and put them in the oven!