ARE YOU GIVING AWAY YOUR POWER? TO A BUTTON PUSHER???
I know who I am
therefore I always act like myself
except in the instances
when someone presses my buttons
and then I act like
because I REACT in ways
that don’t feel like me
but it only happens
because they piss me off!
I’ve been thinking a lot about personal power lately and I have witnessed so many instances of people who willingly hand their power to another person and don’t even realize they have done it!
The story goes something like this…
An argument begins. Instead of trying to talk things out and hear the other person’s point of view, both parties get stuck defending their own position.
Party one says something that is a trigger to party two…they intentionally press a button to get a reaction.
Without thinking or skipping a beat, party two takes the bait and reacts in a way that does not feel authentic to their soul. It doesn’t feel good because it is not how they wanted to respond; in fact, it is contrary to who they believe they are at their core.
Relationships are full of good and bad. We tend to adopt patterns that become habitual to the point that we don’t even realize that the same things continue to happen over and over.
The people with the buttons are usually the more emotional of the two and they don’t recognize when they have been pressed until it is too late. At that point they react emotionally and – BAM! – they immediately lose their power.
The way we frame these interactions has the ability to take us deeper into the dysfunction. If you place the blame on the button pusher, which is the easier thing to do, then you never realize that you have given your power to them not only in the instant that you react, but you give it to them over and over because you never take responsibility for your part.
JUST BECAUSE THEY
PUSH A BUTTON
DOES NOT MEAN
YOU HAVE TO REACT!
You take back your power the minute you realize that you HAVE POWER! Your power resides in taking responsibility for your part and to never REACT when they want you to.
Take a moment…breathe…and formulate a response – if one is even necessary.
The moment you decide to respond instead of react, the following things happen.
1). You immediately feel a surge of personal power
2). They immediately feel it too – and that deflates their power. They take a moment to gather themselves and to figure out what happened.
If you can sustain this type of communication with a button pusher, the third thing that will happen is they will completely STOP TRYING TO PUSH YOUR BUTTONS because they no longer get the reaction they used to get – they lose their power over you!
TAKE BACK YOUR POWER
THE BUTTON PUSHER
MOVES ON TO
Take responsibility for your life and your relationships. The next time someone pushes your buttons, take that moment to respond instead of react and see how good it feels to take back your personal power!
Sending all kinds of good energy, love, and light to you all.