The Truth About Detours


Rise to the beautiful bounty that exists inside your soul

Answer the questions God asks you

The answers contain the directions that make you whole

There are many possible routes to get where you are supposed to be

Some are better than others

Some you just wait and see

There are no wrong answers

For everything moves you in one direction or the other


But there are better roads to travel

You can take the road you want to

But don’t expect to wander freely and get to your destination in a timely fashion

You see, this is where free will steps in

Yes – there may be a plan for you

But if you take a detour and get side tracked

Then the purpose you are supposed to fulfill will be delayed

No one can say for sure how long

Or if you will even fulfill that purpose in your lifetime

And there will be consequences to your psyche

For not fulfilling the contract

Feelings of being lost

Feelings of anger

Feelings of not being satisfied

For how satisfied could you be if you are not satisfying your purpose?


In hindsight, I can’t have regrets

Because I would not have had my beautiful son

If I had not taken my detour

A rather long, convoluted detour

One that had many twists and turns

And accidents along the way

But here I am now

A little worse for wear

Probably a lot more broken

And there’s always the self-abuse I created

But the point is

I’m back!

I have never felt more authentically me

than perhaps when I was a young child

Free will

It’s all up to us how, when, and where we travel

The road can either be the original planned one

Or – you can take a detour





Written 7/12/14

When I was 18, a woman who was dressed as a gypsy at a Halloween party read my palm.  She looked me in the eye and told me she could see what I was planning and that I absolutely should not do it! 

It was creepy!  Because just so happens I had a HUGE thing planned.  I was eloping in one month….leaving the security of family (and really…really…pissing them off!) leaving a career that I loved, and heading to a life filled with lies, drugs, anger, and abuse!

It was somewhere around Tennessee that we made the call to my parents…far enough away that my Father couldn’t get us.  But the very, very, sad thing is that all I wanted was for my Father to come and get me.  I knew that I was making a huge mistake and I just wanted to go home.

My Father’s reaction was so filled with hate and anger it made me dig my boots in and finally, 600 miles away I stood up to him for the first time in my life!  All I really wanted was to be a little girl and go home, but this newfound bravery was so enticing I told him we were already married and there was nothing he could do about it!!  Phew!!  Wow!  It felt really good to cause him that pain which didn’t come close to the years of horrible abuse he inflicted on our family.

In a moment life can change.  In that moment, my life changed forever.  I had broken free from the abuse.  Or so I thought at that time.  Apparently the gypsy knew that I only traded one tyrant for another. And my tyrants were always disguised in love.

Life is filled with decisions we have to make.  Looking back you can see the really huge moments that irrevocably changed your path, or if you are lucky you can recognize them when they are happening.  The truth about detours is they put you on roads that you otherwise would not have traveled. I wouldn’t change a thing because my son is my gift that I received in the detour. 🙂  And I know how lucky I am that my detour has finally led me back to my intended path…..Blessitude!

❤ Lorrie

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My healing journey on the continuum of "It's all wrong" to "It's all right!" I love art and the creative process, reading, writing, and playing tennis.

59 thoughts on “The Truth About Detours

  1. The closer “the shift” comes, the easier the detours are to notice. I myself have taken one too many detours – a few of which I know have kept me from my destination in this particular life. I could choose to punish myself and refuse to live out the course my detour leads me on upon my path, or … I can choose to accept my responsibility in the loss of speed in which I can obtain the goal that was laid out for me and frolic along the path “off” my detour – toward the road I had steered from in the first place. We live, we learn, we’re closed, we become open – and as we’re taking every step – no matter whether we’re on course or fall off course, we are always loved and always accepted back on track, a changed track perhaps, but still the original track, slightly derailed.


    1. Yes Kimberly. ..I also feel I lost a lot of time taking my detours. I have had sadness about this, but I don’t dwell on it because I know everything happens for a reason. ..and happens the way it is supposed to. I think when I see how great my life feels now that I am back on track. ..I get a little greedy!! But I really, most of the time, am able to let go…


  2. I’m glad you do, you have to let go. First of all, we are created and exist out of pure loving energy, so beating ourselves up is like going against the very nature of our being … but also, how do we know that the detours we took weren’t part of the original plan, and even if they weren’t – who are we, if not to be humble enough, to realize that our guides are working in full-force to reinvent our path to suit our detour..We’re going to get to where we’re supposed to be no matter what we do – the grand plan is just that “grand” – and we are being guided. ❤ blessings to you


  3. On a completely off topic note … because I’m still so very proud and laughing hysterically at myself for obsessing so drastically over it and finally accomplishing it … did you see my foot? haha Why I’m getting such a huge kick out of it is something I can’t answer – I don’t know, but I’m giggling like a little girl who just saw a butterfly with a piece of candy on it’s wings lol. There must be something very wrong with me – thank goodness I find what’s wrong with me quite right and fitting. LOL I made a foot, it’s under my “barefoot” …. And yes, feel free to biff me in the forehead to get me to stop this hysterical laughter i can’t seem to control over “my foot” hahaha.


  4. HI Lorrie,
    I had totally missed this! I’m thinking of you and all the honor I feel when I read your words, and know how far you have come. Sometimes we don’t heed advice when it is good for us, sometimes we just have to go with our heart no matter what. I believe that you are blessed beyond belief, and yet I know that on the path of deserving more, we often find ourselves in situations where we are subjected to so so much we don’t deserve. I think this teaches us unconditional love, even when we wouldn’t given it anyways. Also, when you stood up to your father, that was a precious moment, and it didn’t matter that you were swapping one tyrant for another, what mattered was that you were in charge of you. You are the boss of you. I so love your courage, and every day that the two of us connect, I learn more about you –
    So much love to you,


    1. Your intuitive heart touches me , Ka. The fact that you found this particular post at this time is no accident. We just buried my father on Friday…he had a major heart surgery that he survived, but then suffered immensely the next two weeks before he passed with his family surrounding him. I have never seen a human die before. A few seconds before he flat lined, my heart did something I had never felt before…and then I almost passed out. The monitor went off and I knew it was the end.
      I have so much MORE stuff that I feel I don’t have a place for…but I also have a strange peace that I don’t quite understand yet.
      I checked out of life (which I tend to do when things become overwhelming) but feel the need to reestablish some order and get back to the things that make my heart sing. There is much to decipher but the way I do that is to write…to create…and to connect!! Thank you for showing up in the PERFECT moment 💜💜💜

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      1. My dear Love, this is my job. I show up at the right time because I am somehow guided to be there, and say or do a thing. Know that you are so very loved. ❤ Thank you for sharing this tender and heartfelt moment with me. I am still receiving your message… here…. and give my gratitude for the life that has been given us, for however long, and in whatever way we know one another. A passing on is a sacred rite, a moment of transition – may all those wounds continue to heal ❤ Bless you sweet Lorrie! I also understand the process of dealing with overwhelm. It's okay. We don't always get to choose how we respond, I think. But our spirit moves us, no doubt. Allow yourself all the emotions. Know that life is ready for you when you are. ❤


        1. Thank you, beautiful soul 💜
          Today is the first day I have been able to experience a little alone time…time to reconnect with my soul in nature. I hear the birds sing and feel the slightly cool breeze cross my body and I know that all IS exactly as it should be. I have been such a control freak most of my life, Ka, only realizing recently when there is no TRUST, you have to CONTROL. I am placing myself in the arms of Spirit, trusting completely that all I experience is necessary…and good!
          I thank you for our connection…you mean so much to me and when our energies connect there is beautiful light!!
          I hope that you are vibrating high, dear Ka!
          (And as an aside…every time I have written your name in this message…my phone has changed it to “James.” I don’t know if that means anything to you…vut felt compelled to tell you.)
          Sweetest blessings 💜💜💜

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          1. Hi Lorrie – very long day over here. Lots going on. I hear you on the control thing. I really do. It’s all a balancing act that we keep finding and changing the level of give and take with the nature of the universe. I have had a really intense but not quite overwhelming day. : ) I’m good. It’s good stress. Better than before – better than ever, maybe. HOpefully that keeps flowin’ – I feel empowered in my life, even during stress.

            Lorrie, at first, I didn’t think the name James had any meaning in particular, then later on I remembered a past life reading a long time ago given by my friend where I was told I had a past life as a little boy who was a slave on a plantation, named James, and I was beaten and abused. So, I suppose, I am still healing from that. Big big big hug…… lots of love, Lorrie – thank you!


            1. You betcha, Ka! (This time the phone changed your name to “May!”)
              I am happy that you feel so empowered…especially during stressful times! To stand in our power and know that WE are responsible for the way we live our lives no matter what appears from the outside…is so freeing!
              (BTW…Your response about “James” has a message in it for me.)

              May this day hold you in love’s arms and offer you peace from your aoul 💗💗

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              1. Lorrie! You bring loving tears 💟 to my eyes. I wish you the same love’s arm surrounding you, always. Thank you for letting me know that there was a message in there for you, too, about “James.” I thought there might be but you know, so that’s why I did share. – Surrendering in all the ways that we can, grateful to Spirit, and for your role in this! 💗💜💞💗💓💜


              2. Love to connect, Ka! There is always a sweet blessing and I am Blessitude…so blessed and full of gratitude… that our souls found each other in this blogosphere and continue to help each other on our journey. 💜💜💜

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