You Are Where You Are Either Through Ignorance…or CHOICE!


Done with reflection

I see a fork in the road

Think I’ll pick it up!


The thing about life is that you don’t know what you don’t know, but as soon as you do know it you can no longer sit on the fringes and hide behind ignorance.

No, as soon as you do know it (whatever your IT may be) you stand in a holding room and realize you have to make a decision. And the decision rests squarely on your shoulders.

The self-professed control freaks (like myself) would be ecstatic to know that we have all that power, but what I have come to realize is that my controlling nature is most happy when I am trying to control a situation (of which I have none) or others (of which I have none.)

When there is a fork in the road, you can either be oblivious and step on it, or you can bend over, pick it up, and decide which delectable morsel of life you will pursue.

We have many choices, my friends. We make a million of them every day. The trick to growing old with grace is to finally understand that the only thing we can control is what we think. In our thinking, we create our reality.

So if your current reality isn’t working for you, pick up the darn fork and go a different way!


Lorrie ❤


P. S. Sending a Happy Birthday shout out to The Momma in heaven…tomorrow is her birthday! ❤ ❤


Miss that Momma!



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30 thoughts on “You Are Where You Are Either Through Ignorance…or CHOICE!

  1. Very wise advice, dear Lorrie. I’ve picked up the fork, chosen which fork of the road I shall take. I am currently re-writing the script of my life. We have to change our thoughts, attitudes and, most importantly, our deep-seated beliefs, if we are to create a better life, a better world. Love and Blessings, dear Lorrie.

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    1. I love it, Isabella. I can feel the energy of renewal…making choices for the kind of life you WANT! It’s so very powerful, isn’t it? Keep believing…keep exploring the possibilities that are directed by your soul!
      Sending all good thoughts of love compassion!! ❤

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      1. Yes, it’s very powerful. I find that it’s only in the present moment that the signposts exist – guidance, direction and clues are all to be found there. 💙💚💜

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  2. Great advice, dear Lorrie! We see the fruits of our thinking manifesting every single day. Have a wonderful week ahead, my friend, may it bring many blessings!

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    1. Hi Tiny! So nice to see you! I hope that all is going beautifully in your neck of the woods.
      You are spot on! Whatever we plant today…may not appear today…but we can be certain it will in the future.
      Hope you have a lovely Memorial Day! Sweet blessings 💜

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  3. Great post sweet Lorrie. In my soon to be 80 years I have picked up the fork and gone a different way many times. But it has all brought me to a very happy and contented life and right where I am to be at least for now. I am thankful that I found your blog some time back and have gotten to know you through your sharing. I am so proud of you for overcoming all that you have and for taking the direction to what you are doing now. Sending you much love, hugs and blessings dear Lorrie. ❤


    1. Dear, dear Maggie! A birthday on the horizon…? My most wonderful blessings for a fantastic celebration of you…and for a brilliant love-filled year ahead 😁🎂

      Thank you so much for your kind words…they touched my soul and I am grateful that I have been able to let you see me…and get to know me through my words and energy. Your support means so much and I want you to know that I am Blessitude 💜

      Sweet blessings, dear friend. May the light of love shine forever on you…and from you!
      Happy Memorial Day!!💜☀️

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    1. Hi Julie! Ah…thanks so much😁 I just came across it and thought it would be great for her birthday. I took the photo two years ago when Mom turned 88…she was so happy that Day!
      Hope you are enjoying Memorial Day! Have a super week! 💜

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  4. Gah!! i loved this play on words so much!

    “When there is a fork in the road, you can either be oblivious and step on it, or you can bend over, pick it up, and decide which delectable morsel of life you will pursue.”

    It is dimensional and perspective-shifting! Thank you, Lorrie

    Happy Birthday to your Mama! Life is beautiful and every moment is to be celebrated with creativity, and as you say… “bend over, pick it up” and play with that fork in the road 🙂 What a great perspective to have!

    much love, Ka


    1. Awww…thanks for adding your beautiful energy here, Ka!! We had a dinner party Sunday night (the day I posted) and someone started to tell a story that Yogi Bera talked about a fork in the road…an actual fork like my post. I couldn’t believe it and had to show them (and read) my post. So many synchronicities lately!
      I think good thoughts about you and your family! 💜

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  5. It’s funny how I can get attached to certain forks without even realizing it.. Then it starts to get uncomfortable and I wonder why I held it as long as I did. Here’s to new forks! 🙂 I love that picture of your mama. ❤


    1. Thanks JoAnna😊 I had to post it…she was so happy that day. I miss her tremendously…but the very sad part is due to dementia…I even missed her while she was still here😔
      Thanks for the love💞


  6. Excellent Thoughts Lorrie
    “The trick to growing old with grace is to finally understand that the only thing we can control is what we think. In our thinking, we create our reality.”… You said it all within this one sentence.. ❤
    Much love.. ❤

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    1. Wrapped up with a bow!! 😉
      It does appear to be at the crux of this journey!! I want to day I wish I’d figures it out sooner…but that would go against my other belief that everything happens exactly HOW and WHEN it is supposed to.
      My heart to yours💜

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  7. Beautiful message, Lorrie. And happy birthday, Momma! Just yesterday in a conversation with my sis, I asked her with tears, how could I have been so blind? Oh yes, When truth is seen, sometimes it is soul shaking. Yet despite that soul shaking, I still have choices. And boy did I ever make choices to change certain circumstances and not only that, what I was doing. That fork sometimes is gentle. Sometimes not. We all do have choices. I also choose to see my thoughts for what they are and go from there, and I choose to change what I can. Thank you for sharing this powerful journey with me. Bless you, Lorrie. Bless you! 🌟🌟🌟


    1. It is my greatest pleasure, Amy. Thanks so much for adding your brilliant energy here. Choices…we do have them and we make them every day…some small…some very large. I believe as I heal and come to authentically love myself, those choices have been better ones.

      Appreciate you, Amy😁 Hope the sun is shining brightly and the call of the wild speaks to your heart because whether happens you create magic!!

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      1. We are still contending with clouds. Still. I managed to get some landscape shots today when I returned to a park that I am just in Love with. The more you delight yourself while being gentle with yourself with those things you Love to do, the more in “like” and “Love” you will be with you. More BIG (((HUGS)))!!! 💜

        Apologies for late reply. I just haven’t been able to get here. Whew! Life!! 😉

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        1. No worries at all…I know you are there…and if you are busy creating that makes me happy😁

          I went on my paddle board this morning ok n the intracoastal…aqua clear waters…beautiful!!! Wish I could bring my phone for photos…but I wouldn’t dare!! The memories are in my heart!
          Hope it gets nice up there soon, Amy💜

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    1. Yes, Georgina…because it is easy to forget we HAVE A CHOICE! But we always do…and I can look at my collective choices over a day and I can tell whether I am radiating love…or radiating FEAR! Love is so much better ❤
      Sweet blessings!

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  8. I think my favorite line in your share is “When there is a fork in the road, you can either be oblivious and step on it, or you can bend over, pick it up, and decide which delectable morsel of life you will pursue.” That was a great expression, a great perception, then again, it’s you so surprised I’m not. ❤ I've got forks to the left of me, forks to the right of me, forks to the front of me, forks behind me and forks at every angle in-between, all which require action of choice, all which need to be tended to simultaneously, even though I am of the belief that we work on and move on to the next … sometimes it just doesn't happen that way, and like you in many ways, though I think you're a bit more fortunate, I am absolutely an island, which certainly doesn't help. I believe what I need is a spoon! Scoop up all the forks place the morsels in the spoon in only one direction (wow, talk about crumbling shoulders … but you know I'm strong) and allow for the other directions to be clear for a bit.

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    1. Oh, the forks! I like the idea of a spoon 🙂 And Islands!!!…Did you know my theme song when I was a young teenager was “I am a Rock…I am an Island!” Mostly because of the line, “And an island feels no pain.” But pain is part and parcel of life…no one escapes it. We all have our STUFF (on so many levels.) I’m not sure what’s going on but I can take a guess…and I just want you to know that you ARE CAPABLE! You have inside you everything that you need to make it through this tunnel. You have to believe in yourself…and you have to look closely at the theme that is repeating for you…there is always repetition until we deal with the underlying “thing.” Uncovering the initial “thing” can be so very difficult, but we must find where our thinking changed and then do everything we can to CHANGE it.
      Know that I am sending healing white light to you…know that I am surrounding your soul with perfect love ❤ ❤


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