I had to pivot
had to duck
I had to react
had to acknowledge
I had to adapt
had to pull back
I had to let go
had to relinquish
I HAD TO CHANGE!
If 2020 taught us anything, it’s that in the blink of an eye everything we thought to be true could be so drastically twisted that when it is done changing we are left with a pile of “stuff” we don’t recognize.
What I have learned is that change happens whether we want it or not; and change that we do want is hard to achieve. The psychology of dealing with change is to recognize where you have power. It is about control, and it is about letting go.
CHANGE WE DON’T WANT
We want to control our life and when outside experiences happen that are beyond our control, we need to lean into the changes and let go. We need to pivot. We need to react and adapt. We need to let go of our death grip to keep things the same and soften our minds as we make a new way, because some changes will happen no matter how hard we try to fight them.
We can fight change if we want…
but it is going to happen anyway!
The key we need to adjust to the new normal is to let go of what was, and to find a way to live with what is. It is imperative to deal with the changes in the moment that is NOW. If you hold on to what was, you live your life in the past and you have no present. When you live life in the past, you give up all of your control. So the act of holding on so tightly actually has the opposite effect; we lose what we so covet.
Life is no fun
CHANGE WE DO WANT
The other change, is change we do want. It is the things we don’t like about ourselves or our circumstances and would like to change. It’s about losing weight, or becoming more fit. It’s changing our diets, or changing our jobs. It’s wanting to say “no” when we always say “yes.” And it is every bit as hard to make these changes as it is to accept the ones we don’t want!
This is the time of year many people think about change and make resolutions on January 1st. Research indicates that very few are successful just a mere few weeks down the road. We slip back into old habits that are ingrained in our being and then we berate ourselves when we notice it.
The next step is to give up because that is easier than to start again. But how long can we continue to give up before we completely trash our self-esteem?
We don’t get an infinite amount of time here. We can continue to put off until tomorrow what we want to change now, and we can fight the outside world changes and never accept them. Both scenarios leave us in a place that we don’t want to be. We control our own lives and we can accept what we can’t change by changing our minds, and we can also make the changes we do want by changing our minds!
Change is hard. But we are strong, and we are worth it! Take back your power and know when it is time to let go, and when it is time to dig in.
We are in the middle of incredible changes worldwide that will require us to make great personal changes. Don’t run and hide. Take back your personal power! I offer you all a vibration of love and strength…perseverence…to weather the storm of change and to become your own storm to accomplish the changes you want to make.